Boundaries of dating

11 Feb

After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?

Some highlights of the book for me were the sections that addressed the importance of a solid base of friendship in dating relationships, the warnings of premature commitment and over-involvement (in other words, “too much, too fast”), and the admonishment to live out relationships in the context of community, as opposed to isolation.

I also liked that the authors addressed respect and disrespect thoroughly, as how we treat one another, confront one another, value one another’s experiences, and listen to one another’s opinions are key to any healthy relationship.

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, I jumped at the opportunity, hoping to be both challenged and affirmed. And I finished the book with confirmation that I’m on the right track.

After all, I’m always game to glean additional information about healthy dating relationships for my future. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. Here’s the deal: Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience.

Implementing dating boundaries are, for sure,a step in the right direction.

Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Set and maintain healthy boundaries—boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control.

Despite over a decade of prayer, a proper attitude toward the commitment and responsibility of marriage, and realistic expectations, it just hasn’t happened. But, at the same time, in this long season of singleness, I’ve had a lot of time to think and pray about these things.

I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!