Dating as an acoa

06 Feb

Not different as in I had some amazing athletic ability or that I was blessed with a brand of intelligence that made me a shoo-in for Harvard but different in that I came from an alcoholic family that most people I knew couldn't relate to.It wasn’t that I didn't want to have fun but it was more about not allowing myself to have fun because I was convinced that I didn’t deserve it.Once our vacation was over, I thought about the other areas of my life where I sabotaged fun and enlisted the help of my therapist to work through those urges.And in the most desperate times early on, Al-Anon brought enough hope that I was able to hold on for another day. Here's the website where you can find meetings that are close to you (worldwide) : .

I'm a grateful member of Al-Anon, and would recommend attending a few meetings to see if you find it helpful. Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life? Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?

Every meeting has a different "flavor" and it's usually recommended that you try up to 6 different meetings before deciding whether or not it's for you.

I remember once at a sleep over, in middle school, where I decided to open up to a select group of friends about my brothers’ heavy drug use.