Dating somenone with bipolar disorder

05 Feb

Of course, because people with bipolar have jumped to the extremes – usually negative ones – we sure the heck worry about it once we get there.

However,bipolar and lying is a complex and nuanced issue and I hope you will keep reading to discover some of the factors that drive this apparent lack of honesty. It is easy to see why at least the first three of these common reasons for lying may come up frequently in the life of someone with bipolar disorder. Manic symptoms such as grandiosity and impulsiveness. During an episode, the normal self is temporarily replaced by someone who is convinced they are special and superior.

First, let’s quickly review why people (and that is, ALL people) are sometimes untruthful. It may also help to learn about the general pathology of compulsive liars. He or she is now so wrapped up in themselves that they can only perceive other people and events through their own self-engrossment.

So in fairness to all of us with bipolar disorder, the issue could be more fairly cast as “do people with bipolar disorder tell EXTRA lies? In my opinion, bipolar and lying go together with bipolar grandiosity, diminished need for sleep, racing thoughts and overall impulsivity and impaired judgment.

” Much as I hate to say it, my own experience leads me to say YES! They are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. They feel compelled to cast themselves in a more favorable light. It is a “white lie” to make someone else feel better and has no malice in it. They are manipulative sociopaths or narcissists and enjoy the power that comes from deliberately deceiving and making fools out of other people. They are politicians or secret agents or parents or are in some other situation where it appears to them that the ends justify the means. The person with bipolar disorder may be experiencing a powerful sense of superiority and entitlement, and/or an unshakable conviction they are above the rules and/or an aching feeling of being misunderstood and under-appreciated – that is, the perfect storm!

Dealing with bipolar thoughts is a full-time gig and an exhausting one at that. Because if we don’t moderate our own thoughts and deal with them appropriately, we can’t hope to have healthy relationships with others.